If I want your opinion I'll ask for it!

I find it very interesting how people are always trying to tell me how I should be raising my child or what I need to be doing to insure her well being. I understand that sometimes it is just advice and often solicited by me in the first place. What really gets me are the people who are always insinuating that you don't know what youa re doing and that they could do it so much better than you are. I would bet that everyone reading this has on or two of those people in their lives. Its the person who innocently says "shouldn't she have a hat one?" or " oh baby it's so cold out there. Didn't your mommy bring any gloves?". Or a million other phrases said in that tone we all know and dread. This is the voice of someone who doesn't say it but in their own passive aggressive way is telling you what and idiot you are and that they are a much better parent than you are. I have someone like that in my life and it makes me totally insane.


Let me just say that my daughter is 2 1/2 and she is still alive and we have NEVER had a trip to the emergency room, larges amount of bloodshed or criticle head injury. She is still alive and as far as I can tell she is thriving. I have managed to keep her alive this long so I would have to guess that I am doing a pretty good job. She has never lost a finger or toe to frostbite, never had an ear infection, case of the flu or even pinkeye for that matter. So I will take that as a sign the she is healthy. As far as happy....well thats is for her and her therapist to decide when she is older.


When I found out I was pregnant I was devestated. I did not want to raise children. I thought I would be a terrible mother and i had no desire to be one in the first place. Even when I finally came around to the idea of being a mom and was excited and happy be in this state I alot of apprehension about my ability to be the kind of mom I wanted to be for my daughter. The last thing I needed was someone in my immediate circle making me feel less the adequate by all the aside comments and insinuations that I was doing it all wrong.


Everyone good parent(one who doesn't need child services called on them), and there are thousands upon thousands of you out there, has their own way of raising a kid and no one way is right or wrong. Parenthood is hard enough without someone always making you feel like you are doing it wrong. Lets just all try to support each other and keep our judgments and comments about "well this is how I did it" to ourselves unless solicited. And even then I would have to say that we should think carefully and not be too quick to speak. Parenthood is the hardest job out there and we need all the support we can get.